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Management Principle #4: What You Resist The Most Stays With You |
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Have you noticed that
when you try to avoid something it keeps happening?
For example, you could be saying to yourself that you will not
get angry over a traffic jam but you still do.
Or maybe you are trying not to yawn so you don’t give off the
impression of getting bored, but often you fine that you need to yawn
almost nonstop. If you imagine
something stressful you feel stressed. For example; imagine having to
wake up extra early to attend a seminar or having to work through a 10
mile traffic jam. On the other hand, if you imagine something relaxing
you feel relaxed for example; imagine laying back on the beach or a
picnic in a park. This aspect of how your mind works make it clear that
the images you have on your mind will influence your mind body system.
When you are trying
very hard to resist something then what you are resisting will be on
your mind. i.e. You have to
keep an image or thought in your mind of what you are resisting to be
able to resist it. If you
don’t do this then you won’t know what you are trying to resist.
So by the very act of resisting an idea or thought you end up
keeping it on your mind so what you resist must stay with you. Here is another
example; Imagine that you meet a person who says to you that he/she will
give you a $1000 if you don’t think of a pink elephant all day. Of course, this is a really weird thing for anyone to say and
I’m sure you don’t spend your time thinking of something as random
as a pink elephant. However, trying to resist that image of a pink
elephant with a thousand dollars on the line would be almost impossible.
Once again, what you resist tends to stay with you. To apply this to
stress management just realize that if you are trying very hard to
resist something that may cause you stress then you end up feeling more
stress in relation to it. Instead,
what you need to do is practice an alternative form on that you find
relaxing. Instead of resisting something, accept it and focus on something more appropriate. This will help you deal with stress better in all aspects of your life.
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